Isn’t it funny how we get to a certain point and then just stop?
It probably wasn’t even a real goal, yet we pat ourselves on the back and say good job.
You get to a target weight… and then you stop.
You get a job that pays the bills… and then you stop.
You get backed into a corner, you fight your way out… and then you stop.
You get to a point of complacency. I face the same problem. Everyone does.
Many times I have worked out, I started getting complements… and then I stopped.
I see it in others as well.
The most difficult thing. Even more than creating new habits, is continuing after you’ve had some success. You get comfortable; you fall back on your laurels. What you’re doing is setting out to build a house and quitting once you have a roof and four walls. You still need electrical, plumbing, furniture and a family for the house to become a home. Just because it provides shelter does not make it a home and just because you’ve met your goal does not mean you’re done. The Wright brothers pioneered the airplane. But was there room for improvement? Of course. You have to perfect your craft, be ever evolving and most of all, do not get comfortable.
You’ll have to refocus, re-center and remind yourself how you got where you are.
Sometimes, when you look at where you are, you are going to have to see things you should STOP doing that got you where you are.
If you look in the mirror and you like what you see, keep going.
If you don’t, then stop.
But if you like what you see, then why stop? I feel like this is due to not wanting to be ‘too successful’ to those around you. You subliminally don’t want the envy, jealousy or hatred that comes with success. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. So what do you do? You taper off, you fall back into the general consensus, back into the massive pool of average people, even if you have risen to the top. So what has to happen at this crucial point? You need to get the fuck out of Smalltown, USA (if you haven’t already) and get some more successful friends. It sounds vain, but here is some food for thought.
If you hung out with Bill Gates, would you be aiming for a $100,000/year job?
If you played basketball with LeBron James, would you practice for only an hour a day?
These people are elite and they will push you to be more simply by virtue of being them.
What are your friends pushing you to do? To go out and party? To play video games? Are they watching stupid YouTube videos? Are they creating anything?
This is the most difficult part of human growth, the social aspect. No one wants to be ostracized; no one wants to be different. To be great, you have to be different.