“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”
― Bruce Lee
What do you want in life? Take a second and think about it.
Think about it.
Thought about it?
Before you can do anything, you need to build a foundation with which to enjoy your life. If you’re anything like me, you want to be fit, financially free and able to carry out your dreams and aspirations. This is what is known as the good life. The good life is comprised of four things: Health, Wealth, Love and Happiness; in that order. Without health, nothing can be enjoyed. Without wealth, love and happiness are going to be tough to come by. In order to have better, you have to become better.
Why can’t you have a six pack? You’re not good enough.
Why can’t you have a Lamborghini? You’re not good enough.
Why can’t you have great friends? You’re not good enough.
Why can’t you have a loving relationship with the person of your dreams?
You’re not good enough…
Don’t take this as some inferiority complex, we are all weak in one area or another and there is always room for improvement. It’s not a bad thing when you are not good enough. It is simply a fact that you need to acknowledge before you can move forward. Start being factual in your life, don’t beat yourself up and don’t have a big head. Simply state facts. Be humble, acknowledge the error in your ways and take small yet progressive steps in the right direction. You can, and you will improve. But, take an honest look at yourself and see what it is that you are actually bringing to the table. Sometimes the answer is not much. If that’s the case, seek to improve on that facet by first gaining knowledge and quickly taking action. The best way to do this is to make friends with people who are where you want to be.
A friendship should fulfill the needs of both people involved. It could be as simple as “you make me laugh” or as complex as “you inspire me to be more.” No matter what the reason, that person is attracted to you because of who you are; and vice versa.
What is it about you that attracts people?
What is it about you that repels people?
Who are you attracted to? Are they attracted to you or do they seem to push you away?
Personally, I want to surround myself with successful businessmen. Why has that not happened for me yet? Because I am not fulfilling a need of theirs. Plain and simple. Remember, no one likes a leech.
The second a relationship becomes one-sided is when it begins its downward decline.
How can you find friends of great value? It starts with becoming valuable yourself. No one deserves the things they desire. They are earned, whether they are tangible or not. In order to obtain them you have to put in the correct sweat equity. Working hard alone will not do it and neither will being smarter than everyone else. That doesn’t mean you wont need both hard work and knowledge to excel. You need to have some semblance of what you are doing; before you do it.
So how do you predict the future? Read great books; and apply what you’ve learned in everyday life. But you cannot gain knowledge simply from books. You need shining examples of what to do. Find someone who is where you want to be and see if they’ll help you. Odds are they’ve most likely produced something that will help you. Make sure you’ve studied what they’ve written before you approach them. They will only help you if you are worth it, if you’ve put in the hours, if they can see the potential and more importantly the effort you’ve put into obtaining your goal. Everybody wants to be fit. Everybody wants to be rich. That’s why I stress books and action so much before you’ve even put yourself out there.
A potential mentor wants to see that you have the determination to be worth their time. Once you have built yourself into a man of value, you’ll be surprised at the quality of people you attract.